Lori H. Gordon tackles those everyday frustrations that cause arguments and confusion, lead to endless misunderstandings, and sabotage joy in relationships. Gordon has found that the source of a relationship’s trouble often involves love knots or those hidden expectations and assumptions or beliefs that we bring to intimate relationships. Love knots act like land mines; if touched they explode. Gordon examines many of the most dangerous relationship traps such as:

– Love Knots: hidden beliefs or assumptions that ruin relationships
– Double Binds: setting up no-win solutions
– The Invisible Contract: overlooking each other’s terms of intimacy

Fortunately, Dr. Gordon also provides effective, simple non-blaming skills to remedy these situations–and to prevent them from arising again in the future. Couples, therapists and anyone else who cares about “stuck” relationships can benefit immensely from reading this book. (Author abstract)