This book presents a 10-step approach to separation that is designed to assist couples in deciding what they really want and whether the relationship can provide it. Chapters describe strategies for implementing the following 10 steps: managing the crises or conflict; communicating with your self and your partner; defining the initial goals and purposes of your separation; choosing the type of separation that?s right for you; deciding on the terms of your separation; talking and dealing with children during separation; carrying out your decision to separate; developing, clarifying, and changing goals for yourself and your relationship; evaluating your goals; and making decisions. Case studies are included throughout the text, along with exercises. Appendices include a negotiation exercise and a relaxation-meditation exercise. 16 exhibits and 61 references.