Come on baby, (re)light my fire
Week of Aug 22, 2016
New research indicates that there are ways that couples can sustain -- or relight -- their passion
Many couples find that their sexual desire has dwindled over time. It's not unusual for partners who could not keep their hands off each to gradually lose interest. But new research indicates that there are ways that couples can sustain -- or relight -- their passion.
The secret to a long-lasting marriage
Week of Feb 11, 2016
Tips from the experts and people who've been wed for decades
What Happens to Kids When Parents Fight
Week of Jan 27, 2016
Blog post from the Greater Good Science Center
Is Living Together All It's Cracked Up to Be?
Week of Jan 14, 2016
How & why marriage & cohabitation differ
According to a recent headline in the Washington Post, “Living together is basically the same as marriage, study finds.” Is that true? I do not think so, but it is worth grappling with the study and related findings. Read more.
How your credit score could predict the success of your relationship, in 4 charts
Week of Oct 23, 2015
Most people know that their credit score will affect their ability to take out a loan, rent or own a home, and may even be factored into hiring decisions. But recent research from the Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve from Geng Li, Jessica Hayes and Economic Studies Fellow Jane Dokko suggests that it could actually offer important insight into another aspect of your life: who’ll you end up with romantically—and how long you’ll stay together.
Read more from this Brookings Now post by Alison Burke.
Safety as the Hallmark of Successful Marriages
Week of Aug 10, 2015
Scott Stanley writes about the critical role that types of safety play in having a “healthy” marriage.
Love, factually: Gerontologist finds the formula to a happy marriage
Week of Jul 23, 2015
Cornell University Legacy Project
- Learn to communicate
- Get to know your partner very well before marrying
- Treat marriage as an unbreakable, lifelon commitment
- Learn to work as a team
- Choose a partner who is very similar to you
Is partner responsiveness a key to good health?
Week of Jul 13, 2015
Study published in Psychological Science
8 Ideas for Protecting Your Marriage from Divorce
Week of Mar 25, 2015
Scott Stanley, March 12, 2015 Family Studies Blog
What can couples do to avoid divorce? Hundreds of books, articles, workshops, and lectures have tackled that question. If there were a surefire way to “divorce-proof” a marriage, we would have found it by now. It doesn’t exist. But there are some things married couples can do to minimize their risk of divorce. In a recent piece, I gave advice to singles and dating couples about how to lower their future odds of marital breakdown. Now, I’m focusing on those already married. Read more.
8 facts on love, marriage, and childbearing in America
Week of Feb 14, 2015
Brookings Blog Post
Many Americans are getting married later in life, if at all, while still having children outside of marriage. Learn more from these 8 facts on love, marriage, and childbearing in America. Read more.
Commitment and lasting love
Week of Jan 09, 2015
Scott Stanley on why commitment is so important in lasting love
Dr. Stanley is a research professor who conducts studies on marriage and romantic relationships. Follow him at his blog: Sliding vs Deciding
How To Craft An Empirically-Supported Marriage
Week of Dec 09, 2014
Scientific America Blog post
Ceremony readings from the wedding of two social psychologists. Read more.
Are Gadget-Free Bedrooms the Secret to a Happy Relationship?
Week of Dec 05, 2014
Nick Bilton | NYTIMES
Masters of Love
Week of Nov 11, 2014
The Atlantic - summary of John Gottman research on lasting relationships
In Relationships, Be Deliberate
Week of Aug 21, 2014
National Marriage Project Report
Silent treatment speaks volumes about a relationship
Week of Aug 04, 2014
Sharon Jayson, USA TODAY
How and Why to Ban the Silent Treatment from Your Relationship
Week of Jun 17, 2014
Elizabeth Bernstein | The Wall Street Journal
Letting yourself be a little crazy
Week of May 23, 2014
— crazy for your partner — pays off
6 Common Habits for Happy Marriage
Week of Mar 14, 2014
After interviewing 10,000 couples in 110 countries around the world, bestselling author of "Happy Wives Club" Fawn Weaver has identified six practices that happy partners have in common. Some you might not expect.
Couples, the Internet, and Social Media
Week of Feb 21, 2014
New Pew Research Center Survey
Watch a movie together and talk about it.
Week of Feb 04, 2014
Univ of Rochester Study
A University of Rochester study finds that watching and discussing movies about relationships is as effective in lowering divorce rates as other, more intensive early marriage counseling programs. Read More
Want to Stop Arguing and Change Spouse's Behavior? Start With Mirror
Week of Jan 07, 2014
Article by Elizabeth Bernstein (Wall Street Journal, January 6, 2014)
Why Rate Your Marriage? A Numerical Score Can Help Couples Talk About Problems
Week of Dec 18, 2013
Therapists Say They Learn a Lot When Couples Commit to Numbers in Areas Like Trust, Teamwork, Physical Intimacy
Five Predictors of Relationship Success
Week of Nov 14, 2013
(and Five Not So Good Predictors)
- Commitment, or one’s long-term orientation and attachment to one’s partner is a very good predictor. It’s not surprising that those intending to stay in their relationships are less likely to break up.
- Positive illusions – We’ve written about it before, but viewing your relationship as better than it really is can be beneficial for its success.
- IOS – The “Inclusion of Other in the Self” Scale, developed by Dr. Art Aron and colleagues,4 is a really ingenious way of assessing relationship closeness using a series of overlapping circles (i.e., Venn diagrams).
- Love is especially interesting because of the diversity in how love is defined across different studies. It’s conceptualized and measured in many different ways, but what the various definitions of love have in common is their utility in predicting relationship stability.
- Network support – Although this technically wasn’t in the Top 5, I want to highlight it because it was a surprisingly good predictor of break-up. Having friends and family approve of and support relationships is associated with their long-term success. As a social psychologist, I shouldn’t be surprised by the fact that external influences are important in relationships, but I admittedly didn’t anticipate the strength of this finding. More
Online Dating & Relationships
Week of Oct 24, 2013
Pew Internet & Life Project report
Researcher finds correlation between financial arguments, decreased relationship satisfaction
Week of Oct 16, 2013
Study published in Family Relations, Vol 61, Issue 4
"Arguments about money is by far the top predictor of divorce," said Sonya Britt, assistant professor of family studies and human services and program director of personal financial planning. "It's not children, sex, in-laws or anything else. It's money -- for both men and women." Read more.
This study using longitudinal data from more than 4,500 couples as part of the National Survey of Families and Households is published in Family Relations Volumne 61, Issue 4.
The Key to Happy Relationships? It’s Not All About Communication
Week of Sep 23, 2013
An Internet-based study involving 2,201 participants
In an Internet-based study involving 2,201 participants referred by couples counsellors, scientists decided to test, head to head, seven “relationship competencies” . In addition to communication and conflict resolution, the researchers tested for sex or romance, stress management, life skills, knowledge of partners and self-management to see which ones were the best predictors of relationship satisfaction. More
Sleepless nights can worsen lovers' fights
Week of Jul 15, 2013
UC Berkeley Study
Happily married means a healthier ever after
Week of Jul 08, 2013
Research out of Brigham Young Univeristy suggests happy marriages live less “in sickness” but enjoy more of life “in health.”
New Brigham Young University research finds that people in happy marriages live less “in sickness” but enjoy more of life “in health.” In a 20-year longitudinal study tracking health and marriage quality, BYU family life researcher Rick Miller found that as the quality of marriage holds up over the years, physical health holds up too. “There’s evidence from previous research that marital conflict leads to poor health,” Miller said. “But this study also shows happy marriages have a preventative component that keeps you in good health over the years.” Read more.
Age and Conflict
Week of Jul 02, 2013
Does age affect how married couples handle conflict?
Researchers at the Relationships, Emotion and Health Lab at San Fransico State University followed 127 middle-aged and older long-term married couples across 13 years, checking in to see how they communicated about conflicts from housework to finances.
The researchers found that while most aspects of demand-withdraw communication remained steady over time, both husbands and wives "increased their tendency to demonstrate avoidance during conflict," reports Sarah Holley director of the Lab. That is, when faced with an area of disagreement, both spouses were more likely to do things such as change the subject or divert attention from the conflict. Avoidance is generally thought to be damaging to relationships as it gets in the way of conflict resolution. For younger couples, who may be grappling with newer issues, this may be particularly true. But for older couples, who have had decades to voice their disagreements, avoidance may be a way to move the conversation away from "toxic" areas and toward more neutral or pleasant topics, the researchers suggest.
The Perils of Giving Advice
Week of Jun 25, 2013
Elizabeth Bernstein article on advice giving in marital relationships
Bernstein describes the results of a series of six studies that followed 100 couples for the first seven years of marriage. Researchers at the University of Iowa found that both husbands and wives feel lower marital satisfaction when they are given too much advice from a spouse, as opposed to too little. And—surprise!—unsolicited advice is the most damaging kind. Read more.
Follow this link for the abstract of the study published in the Journal of Family Psychology: Validity and utility of a multidimensional model of received support in intimate relationships.Barry, Robin A.; Bunde, Mali; Brock, Rebecca L.; Lawrence, Erika Journal of Family Psychology, Vol 23(1), Feb 2009, 48-57.